Weather and Moods

Today seemed to be in tune with the weather. The morning started with heavy ominous looking clouds. Our moods seemed to match it. I was in the pouty, sad place and had been since last night. I knew Tom was not in the best of moods either. It had been a late night of not accomplishing much and talking even less. I had many opportunities to ask Tom what was bothering him, and I failed to take them, making matters worse. I should know that if he is not speaking much, I need to ask him what he is thinking or what is wrong.

The internet has been spotty here the last couple days, and that just seems to add to the tension. It is frustrating to not have service when you want it. I was making some irritating noises removing some screws after Tom had gone to lay down and maybe catch a nap. He had gotten very little sleep last night. I had to go into the bedroom to get something I needed from the closet, disturbing him once again. We exchanged some words and I began to realize how wrong I had been. I needed to apologize. I had selfishly only thought of myself. I should have asked him what was wrong, what he was thinking, or what I could have done or said different. I should have asked him if he wanted to help restring the blind on which I had started working. I was in the wrong, and spent my energy defending myself and shifting blame. We had a good discussion and he helped me see things more clearly. I need to express myself with energy and enthusiasm while showing care and concern for him. As he says, say it like I mean it, give it 100% instead of mumbling with zero enthusiasm, the absolute least I could do. He needed me, and I failed. By now the weather was breaking, the sun was shining through the clouds and it turned out to be a really nice afternoon and evening. Like the weather, both our moods were better after the discussion, and Tom helped me finish restringing the blind. We worked together the rest of the afternoon, talking about plans, tasks, and how we can work together better. He insists we try to resolve any communication problems immediately, not let them fester or accrue.

Together we made broccoli salad & pulled pork and sat outside for dinner at sunset. We walked down and talked with the neighbors here, who are fellow Tiffin owners. We watched what we think was a boat parade, which ended with fireworks over the lake as I am composing this. Some photos of the parade are below, not our best work, but the lights and reflection on the water look cool. They say the best camera to have is the one in your hand.

Considering how things were a week ago, we seem to be making progress. Yes, there has been a little regress, but we are steps ahead and that is the right direction. I am grateful for that. It has turned out to be a good day.

We are planning to go for a drive tomorrow and tour around Flaming Gorge, hoping to see some of the views from the overlooks and whatever else we can find. I am looking forward to it.

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